It’s Saturday – I just took off from my classes and consumed my secondary lunch meal. Sweetened Saba was my dessert, by the way. After washing the last of the dishes of which, I couldn’t remembering finishing them all, I found myself putting the incident in a miscroscope. I studied with a keen understanding every circumstance and dissected every detail. Then, I digested them.
These are my few realizations, which were tweeted, beforehand [I sort of got the idea by re-writing my tweets, editing, etc. to suit a blog post):
It is not right to inculcate in a child’s mind that when he did wrong, ‘Put the blame to others.’ Let him accept his own mistakes, instead. And make him learn.
Be careful with the simple norm, or words, you impose upon or use to little children like, “We’ll spank her, Baby. Don’t you cry, again.” You are teaching them NOT to humble down and accept their own wrongs. These words may be too light to bear or too comforting for children, but they are not helping at all. Worse, you are growing an arrogant creature without you knowing.
There is a thin line between generosity and vanity. Saying, “Don’t cry, we’ll buy that what you, really, wanted” comes close to being vain or envious. You’re teaching a child to desire more than what he had or to desire what belongs to others.
Be careful in showing too much affection or less attention to your children. This affects their way of dealing with life. They can be arrogant or lame.
A child must be disciplined, outright, by no other than his own parents, if any, or guardian. This is the obligation of every person to their offsprings. Failure or negligence to do so would amount to inconsistent disciplinary action.
Admittedly, not because someone is a parent, he can impose any kind of discipline which he deems suitable. The universal and accepted Good Manners and Right Conduct is the yardstick for everyone.
We, usually, don’t give second thoughts to what we say or do, but they have a deep impact on how one becomes or grows as a person.
I know too well that I am, not yet, a parent. But these relay the same object, which is, DISCIPLINE – a must-know for, and must be possessed by every one, whether a parent or not. And these are the few things I had observed with my dealings with children. ‘Hope it helps in one way or another! 🙂