Child, grow well. 

It’s Saturday – I just took off from my classes and consumed my secondary lunch meal. Sweetened Saba was my dessert, by the way. After washing the last of the dishes of which, I couldn’t remembering finishing them all, I found myself putting the incident in a miscroscope. I studied with a keen understanding every circumstance and dissected every detail. Then, I digested them.

These are my few realizations, which were tweeted, beforehand [I sort of got the idea by re-writing my tweets, editing, etc. to suit a blog post):

It is not right to inculcate in a child’s mind that when he did wrong, ‘Put the blame to others.’ Let him accept his own mistakes, instead. And make him learn. 

Be careful with the simple norm, or words, you impose upon or use to little children like, “We’ll spank her, Baby. Don’t you cry, again.” You are teaching them NOT to humble down and accept their own wrongs. These words may be too light to bear or too comforting for children, but they are not helping at all. Worse, you are growing an arrogant creature without you knowing. 

There is a thin line between generosity and vanity. Saying, “Don’t cry, we’ll buy that what you, really, wanted” comes close to being vain or envious. You’re teaching a child to desire more than what he had or to desire what belongs to others.

Be careful in showing too much affection or less attention to your children. This affects their way of dealing with life. They can be arrogant or lame. 

A child must be disciplined, outright, by no other than his own parents, if any, or guardian. This is the obligation of every person to their offsprings. Failure or negligence to do so would amount to inconsistent disciplinary action.

Admittedly, not because someone is a parent, he can impose any kind of discipline which he deems suitable. The universal and accepted Good Manners and Right Conduct is the yardstick for everyone. 

We, usually, don’t give second thoughts to what we say or do, but they have a deep impact on how one becomes or grows as a person. 

I know too well that I am, not yet, a parent. But these relay the same object, which is, DISCIPLINE – a must-know for, and must be possessed by every one, whether a parent or not. And these are the few things I had observed with my dealings with children. ‘Hope it helps in one way or another! 🙂

💌,
SAM

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Farther

More phenomena float in the ocean of suburban existence; more feuds pirouette at the galaxy of contemplation; and more unearthing revelations beyond the core of truth. How far will you go?

We all are impelled by different forces to conjure up ourselves. Generally, every person’s speech comprises of the usual words he hears or the tedious thoughts he encumbers every time. In some instances, one could possibly say what he wants to hear from someone or the least liked thing from the latter. What about you? What motivates you? This is more than a psychology-related write-up because I am not a psychologist. I am Samantha C. De Guzman.

Manifestations of the humankind also differ: beliefs are affected strongly by childhood cache of fears, intuitions, dreams, success or failure, and some other sentiments stocked through the hippocampus – the connections between neurons associated with memory. Let me take religious belief as an example. One can say that God is dead based on how he viewed a supreme being during childhood. Family plays a large role in defying a child’s intuitions as the former was his first teacher, the home his first school. Indubitably, a person could claim that God is not existing based on the cargo of millstones he has from the very beginning until this moment that no one seems to listen. Taking an atheist point of view, God is dead because no one can prove that He exists. A fallacy, isn’t it? You know a reasonable mind has a lot to prove than a shallow mind with nothing to disprove.

I taught Logic as part of every college student’s curriculum, a branch of Philosophy. And more than I could ever surmise, I enjoyed it! The struggles of teaching and learning while students learn more from you is the biggest premium than an educator could have apart from his impressive salary (Well, not for me. My salary is less than my daily needs). Applying both formal and material logic, I asked my students to distinguish between the truth and falsity of propositions, and let them prove or rebut to the class why or so. Debates were also applauded so you see great minds metamorphose into millennial personas fighting against the status quo.

Do you pick out now how vast and stupefying the human mind is? *speechless*

Let me get my idea straight now. As far as I am concern, I write when my mind flows like a river liberally sustaining the sea. When drought comes, you could not force me to dive with the ebb of typing. AM I REALLY STOPPING THE BEATING AROUND THE BUSH? SORRY. My motivation did not come from hatred or pain. It also did not originate from my own grace for it wholly came from a spirit so great that not even a human mind can probe: Holy Spirit. Honestly, it has been a while that I couldn’t get thoughts straight here. Most of my posts were solely illustrative probably waiting for another river to devour the waters of grace. So here I am now, the Spirit writing to you…

Beyond my arbitration, I surrendered to HIM, the Alpha and the Omega. Yes, I was exposed to brilliant ideas of great minds but the latter did not move my perplexity towards the Omnipotence and Omniscience of the Creator. Most, if not everything, yet, about me changed when I met HIM. All days are struggles, and  every second is a sacrifice. I gave the fight of arguing to prove that I am right; I succumbed to the undeniable fact that a human is prone to mistakes, and as far as you keep on faltering, the more you forgive others’ debt. Life with HIM is not easy, but it is worthy.

I ache to know HIM more in my life, veritably. If tears and wounds are all I have, I would take them all to HIM and use them for HIS Greater Glory! I was supposed to be a slave, but through his mighty humility, we are all made his friends through His son. Are not lords supposed to be served? But He was made known here and dwelt among us to serve us. Sweet? No. Beyond explanation.

When your motivation comes from above, things may not yet transpire, perfectly, but they will and even more than your uphill battles. In contrast, when a thing, person or idea is your anchor of inclination, things may come to pass in fast-paced…yet, in the same manner, they would elapse in a split second. Or, more frustratingly, when they did not go as planned, would cause us too much burden to bear. See? When your source of hope is above you, He can bless you and shower you compared to a fountain leveled the same with you or below you. What could possibly be the result? Chaos.

In my previous posts, I coined myself as HIS Defendant. And as long as He wants me to achieve this mission, I would serve Him and fulfill my life’s purpose in this world: to offer my life to HIM and to others. Besides, it was all I could offer and if it was your everything, wasn’t it more worthy than anything?

“To the one who had much, nothing was in excess; to the one who had little, nothing was lacking.” (2 Corinthians 8:15)

This blog is by HIM and for HIM!

So what force motivates you? Comment below. Thanks!

by: Samantha C. De Guzman

(NO PLAGIARISM)

“WORD WAR” Thursday

“Words came from ideas; from words, thoughts are formed into sentences. Sentences make a paragraph. When put together, paragraphs become a story. From a story, we make books. And books stir up philosophies. Philosophies constitute life. Life, then, is a brainchild of ideas!”

by: Samantha C. De Guzman

(NO PLAGIARISM)